UNDO THE DO

'Do' in Memphis, pronounced as 'doh/doe', has possibly the worst wanna-be Japanese food in the world! This is compared to the ones I've had outside Japan (of course), outside Asia, and in US cities far away from any matter of water! Outside of all possible realm of bad, tasteless (as in absolutely no taste, doesn't even taste like fish or fake fish for that matter) sushi. If you like Do, then you can't possibly know or like what Japanese food or Japanese-wannabe food is or what they are about. If you like Do, then you can't possibly have very good taste for any form of tasty Japanese food because almost nothing there is. The two times we were there, the first time voluntarily and the second via inviation, we had nothing good nor good enough to remember!

Happy New Year!

...a subdued difference to bringing in a new year but last night's celebration was a nice family event spent with the Sgolombises and the O'Donnells. My family away from family. It was very nice. Just to be with Bruce and good friends and their family.

I will try to be better with my blog entries this year... I'm sure now that I'm going to be a year older (arrgh), there will, no doubt, be more complaints. Truth be said, everyday, I thank my lucky stars for having someone as awesome as Bruce in my life. Even when I get, in his own words, 'cranky', I love the man with my every ounce of being (and we all know that's a lot of ounces in this body LOL)

Here is to a good year ahead for everyone, luck, prosperity, health... of course, we all want to be happy and very safe.

Back From OZ

What?! No trouble with finding my visa at the Qantas counter at LAX? I actually caught my connection (of course I did have a 7 hr layover)?? No problem admitting me into the country at Melbourne International?! It really was a positive start to going to the same old crappy country I despise. I was so used to having bad encounters with getting there it always left a bad taste in my mouth upon arrival. Bad news however, mom fainted on the plane en route from sg to mel and the crew on SQ (Singapore Airlines) were unprofessional and surprise surprise, IDIOTS. (I'd post my complain later).

It was nice to see mom again. But what was more fun was seeing four cousins whom I haven't seen in almost 6 years, my two cousin's kids, Kitty and YK (or better now known as Jaymie and Edwin these days) whom I took care of a lot when they were kids, who are now 19 and 22 and the two little boys of my other cousin who were toddlers when I last left in '98. Talk about a rude awakening of aging. Arrgh!

Six days went by really quick. Weather was perfect (for me at least tho' we all enjoyed the cloudy days) and the best part to getting such a big group together was updating me with gossips and events that have mom have overlooked on keeping me on track. Needless to say, I realize mom isn't all that into keeping updated herself! :)

A rather different experiance being in Australia without dad... I didn't enjoy having the sole person deciding on where, what and when but I suppose I was the only one who'd been there more than 0 times :) Mom just isn't in the state of mind anymore to lead... ok, she never was. Still, I had a really nice time. I only hope my cousins had a nice time too. I don't think the Melbourne is exactly a city for kids but hey, they're lucky to be there, let alone Australia.

Nice to be home tho'... gawd it nice to be home. Nice to be with the husband again and do our own weekend thing. As much fun as I had on this trip, it'll be awhile before I return again. Usually, it's only because i HAVE to.

There Are More Stupid Americans Then I Thought...

Wow, GB won by a bigger margin than I would have imagined. It tells me how many stupid Americans there are out there. Scary. I can't imagine this country will stay a super power for too much longer. With stupid and uninformed adults, you get stupid kids. They voted for a stupid and badly educated (good schools didn't work for him obviously) fool as their president even after he's messed up in the last four years. The man can't speak his own first language... he's the President of America, for crying out loud. Get a friggin' tutor!!!

...so he acted swiftly for Florida during the hurricane... you think any other President wouldn't have done the same? It's an election year! You're all FOOLS. I'm glad I'm not an American for a change! People who voted for him can't see how regular people say he's stupid... errr, ever watched 'David Letterman?'. How about 'The Daily Show'? Even 'Jay Leno'! Tha man chocked on a pretzel!!! Hello?!

I'm not pro Kerry... I'm just anti-Bush. It's ok to be religious... but like my dad always told me, 'religion is a VERY personal thing'. You just don't push your believes on someone else. I understand there are many Christians (of all denominations)in this country. But to rule this country with a Bible is just wrong!!! It's simply UNAMERICAN! Praying before you go attack another country... I sure didn't need to know that!!!

I suppose in a way, it's good he's been elected again. He's got to deal with the b.s that's going on. But... more soldiers will die for GW's little you-tried-to-kill-my-dad war and more people will die 'coz stem cell research hasn't been funded. Americans are stupid!! That's all I have to say.

Back from Barcelona

Despite having returned from a very nice and relaxing trip from Barcelona more than a week ago, I have failed to log on to my blog. Can anyone get any lazier? :)

For fall break this year, we did the unheard of and forfeited our annual August trip to Tokyo (which we have been doing since 2001) and decided on Europe, for a change. To say the least, we had an awesome time! We took the touristy route; took pictures like any tourist, did the city tour, some musuems, some shopping... and A LOT of food... wow the food!!! Namely awesome local food tho' we did escape on two meals for Peruvian and Malaysian food. Peruvian food was interesting a a nice change. Lots of meat and potatoes. Funny thing was, it was a Japanese looking lady (wife of owner, I assumed) and Chinese looking cooks!! It was interesting to find out from Bruce that there are actually a lot of Japanese in Peru. As for the Malaysian restaurant... the best Malaysian food outside Malaysia!! Bunga Raya had the best of all we tried. Definitely highly recommend. I doubt, however, that tourists would go all the way to Barcelona for Malaysian food... still, I wouldn't put it past us insane and greedy Singaporeans! Note that like all Malaysian/Singaporean resaurants, don't expect much personality in the restaurant or the service hahaha.

As for the local Barcelona/Catalian food, I can safely mention that Cal Pep is the best restaurant... not just in Barcelona, but in the world!!! You know I have been to a gazillion nice, interesting, awesome restaurants but this one sets a standard on it's own. The food, the crazy fast paced chefs, busy open kitchen (right in your face actually) concept definitely works here. Did I mention that the food is absolutely wonderful?!? Itsl definitely a restaurant worth a return trip to Barcelona.

The flight coming home was a little more eventful with a french woman sitting in front of us. The bloody geezer just refused to close her blinds to her window seat. Even after the flight attentend pleaded with her to do everyone a favor since it was movie time and it was difficult to see with this bright light coming in from her window. Nope, the bitch wanted to shoot the damn clouds with her videocam. Why are the French so damn uncoorperative and selfish?! And they wonder why the world dislikes them...

We returned after five perfect days (well, perfect except for when the husband almost broke his leg from slipping in the bathtub... fortunately he was 'genki' after some ice and the awesome bed in the hotel) only to need another vacation. :)

Another Girls' Weekend...

it's in Seattle this time with some high school friends from back home vs the last time in Toronto with my party friends from back home :D It really is so exciting considering both Cherie and I haven't heard from, much less see, Laura Soon, who's now living in Victoria, BC, with her husband. Boy, did it take awhile to find her - thanks to June!! :)

It's probably going to be too short a weekend to catch up almost 20 years of our lives but we'd settle for that. A few short phonecalls in the last couple of months just doesn't do it obviously. We are, after all, women!

I'm just glad at least Cherie and I have met up two years ago in Orlando where she lives with her family (nice hubby and three kids!! :D) and we're on the phone a lot catching up on how busy we are... well, she's REALLY busy, I'm just busy :)

I'm excited. It's off to the airport in 10 mins.

Who Needs a Man???

HAVE PILLOW, WILL SLEEP: The Japanese, famous for their quirky inventions, have come up with another one : The Boyfriend's Arm Pillow. Consisting of a headless torso and a stuffed arm that curls around the sleeper, its maker says the pillow is not only an emotional comfort, but that its shape keeps the body balanced by supporting the sleeper from both sides. -- AP

Reality TV...

First off, I'm SOOOO glad Chip and Kim won the Amazing Race. No one deserved it more then them!

Drew is cute but what an unlikeable person on Big Brother 5. I suppose it was better then giving it to cowboy, the non english speaking moronic guy who seemed to have slipped under the radar to get to second place for a very rewarding 50 grand.

I'm no more a Bachelor or any of those who-wants-to-marry-me, you, he, she or it. I can't believe I lived through it with Trista... well at least she got married to Ryan. But I now think these shows are so stupid they make me feel silly sitting in front of the tv. Wstching just a bunch of think-they're-hotstufff waitresses/bartenders/gym or aerobic instructors and aspiring actors who want their 15 mins of fame. Gimme a break! Ok, so big brother isn't that far off and we grumble watching it. But it's one of our little tradition that been going on since our dating days... (yes you're right, excuses excuses :D)

Airline is still great and we have a good laugh every time we watch it. This past week, we saw someone that reminded me of my dad. Poor dude - that would the staff at Southwest Airlines :)

Amish in the City is FINALLY over. The city kids were unbearable throughout the show. Well, all except for Kevon tho' Reese, the gay dude from Mississippi claims he's a city kid is really yet another wanna-be. The Amish are one helluva odd group of people. No disrespect but as awesome as they claim it is, it looks like none of them were running back to Amish living immediately. All of them said MAYBE some day... yeah, like how I say 'yeah SOME DAY I'd return home NOT! :)

Survivor... so far so good. This is definitely another of our tradition so as long as it's running on tv, that's where you'd find us. But isn't the FBI dude in this season HOT hahahaha. Don't most of these big mouths learn from past seasons of Survivor? Control your gap and you'd be fine. Yet, day one you have idiots running their mouths. Fools!

Trading parents on fox, on abc... fun fun fun and hilarious. Boy, I thought there were disfunctional families in the US but wow(!) what an eye-opener. I knew there were stupid people in the US but WOW... I knew there were bad parents in the world but WOW!!! Makes for great entertaining tv though :)

The Apprentice is still way cool but I can't believe Trump got rid of Bradford (who is a real hottie also). Haven't seen last night's episode yet (DVR) but soon... gawd I hope stupid Ivana or dumbass Stacey got kicked out last night. Or weird Mr Peanut who insists on taking his bloody cane everywhere he goes.

I don't understand 'The Complex' so I won't waste time on that one.

Last Comic Standing is another waste of time. Americans seem to vote on who's cuter as oppose to who's funnier. Get a friggin' life already. The title says COMIC!! It's SO obvious the first season comics are SO much funnier and comfortable on stage. I am, however, glad that they got rid of caveman. Gawd, the thought of him sends chills down my spine. How can anyone hold a conversation with him much less think he's funny?!?!

I'm not watching that boxing one either. It's silly and I have a lot more interesting reality tv shows to watch then a bunch of beat up wanna-be boxers. The Benefactor... I'd give it ONE more chance. No on Next Top Model or any of those makeover ie swan-like shows tho' I'd admit I love the transformation parts.

I'm Busy!!!

It's been almost a month since my last entry. Time flies when you're having fun. I truly am!! ...and I'm beginning to really like living in Memphis. So it doesn't sound glamorous and it's not the most exciting city. But it's where the husband and I live, almost more important, where our friends are. Despite Marjorie's move to CT over the summer, Julie and Kim (she is NOT Asian since everyone calls ME Kim and my name) are still here for me and vice versa. We keep each other occupied with our little groups (mahjong, bowling, canasta, luncheons, more lunches and even more lunches). What would live be like without girlfriends!?

Granted, so some of you say I've been busy with absolutely nothing; I'm busy nonetheless :) People don't understand how not-easy it is to be a good wife AND love life at the same time. Okay, laugh all you want but my girlfriends say I'm a good wife - so I'd take their word for it. I am, after all, also a good friend. My husband tells me I am too - a good wife - and we all know part of being a good wife is to BELIEVE everything the husband says :D

Okay, the truth is, I've really been busy with playing Canasta on yahoo (as well as with the girls) and my new Sims 2. But more on those on later entries.

Southwest Airlines...? I Don't Think So!

Have you seen episodes of 'Airline'??? It comes on here on A&E at 9pm on Mondays. But what are the people at Southwest Airlines thinking?! It's great fun watching the show but it only teaches us NOT to fly this airline! First of all, it seems like if you've had a few drinks at the airport bar (and the staff sees you doing so) you might not be flying that day. I understand banning loud and lewd drunks but c'mon already... even harmless ones that'll probably go on the plane and go to sleep?! It seems a little unfair. Besides, wouldn't you have to be slightly intoxicated to WANT to fly then anyway hahahaha?! Second of all, while a few of the staff seem to have a HUGE amount of patience (they're probably aliens), quite a number of them are awful!! Women in particular. Oh, such witches!! But that's MY opinion :)

Granted, it's been a few years since my (younger) Arizona days when jetting from Tucson to LAX or LAS for $99/RT was a great deal... and yes, it was a thrill for me (for awhile at least) that riding a plane was much like riding a public bus (no designated seats; not even when boarding passes are given out) except with goofy attendents who enjoy being wanna-be singers or stand-up comedians (is that really neccessary).

So go watch it if you're a big Southwest Airlines flyer. I promise you'd take the second option ESPECIALLY if you have connections to make to get to a destination. :)

After All Is Said and Done...

I certainly wasn't kiddin' when I said I was overshopped when we were in San Francisco. Five days in Japan and not only did I not try on a pair of shoes, I didn't take a second glance at any bags. And I'm warning every bag lover out there, Tokyo is the land of bags and shoes!! Bruce got me the cutest little clutch/pouch that said 'I LOVE SHOES' to get me going. I love it, of course, but it didn't get me drooling hahaha. I think it got him worried for a little...

Five days in wonderful-exciting-filled-with-more-weird-people-then-ever-too-hot-
lots-of-awesome-food (not just sushi, thank you very much) too-much-sake-
never-a-dull-moment, Tokyo.

Where in the world do you find THAT many people everyday, all in one day ALL walking in the streets, all taking the subway at any given moment, all eating, all shopping, all doing something or another that I'm doing?! Where and who in the hell goes to breakfast at 4am on a regular work day expecting the place to be PACKED?! What about the 42-way (ok I'm exaggerating but still it's a lot) crossing in Shibuya? Geez... and in that unbearable heat... GAWD!!! And what is it with those BLACK parasols that the Japanese ladies love to carry to shade themselves from the screaming sun. Ok, I'm also Asian... I know the deal... everyone wants to die a porcelain fair skinned mummy... but c'mon already, BLACK!??! Don't they know it's that very black non-water-resistent umbrella that's attracting ALL the heat!?!? Ouch :)

Yes, as usual, we had a wonderful time. What is it with flying first class that time seems to fly? Okay, so you get a perfect ice cream sundae made-to-order. So you have a couple of pieces of lobsters (big phucking deal!). You have these flight attendents tending to your every need... no it wasn't all that. I could have been flying coach. It was my gameboy hahahaha! The Sims Bustin' Out is AWESOME! :) Yes, I'm serious... but that doesn't take away my first experiance flying first class. It as SO sweet of Bruce to take the trouble to get us those perfect seats and it was a very nice experiance. Still, as far as I'm concerned, business class is good enough for me. I don't need to hav lobsters or smoke salmon while playing the sims hahaha!

The Grand Hyatt in Roppongi Hills is way cool. I certainly recommend it... BUT only to people who are familiar enough with Tokyo or you'd seriously get a distorted idea of the city. Roppongi Hills with filled with way too many westerners (gaijin). It almost doesn't feel like the Tokyo I'm familiar with like when we stay in Ikebukuro or Shinjuku... still, if i strike lottery (the big one of course), I'm buying us an apartment in Roppongi Hills. Why!? I LOVE the area, it has awesome restaurants, and it has a cool 24 hour grocery store. I am simply in love with ALL the grocery stores in Japan hahaha. If presentation if everything to you, you'd NEVER want to leave the land of perfect presentation for everything :)

We will go back in November. Ah, nice weather then. Back to staying at the small cubicle I guess I can't have it all everytime hee hee.

All Shopped Out!!!

Two long one-week-trips within a month to SF is a little too much, as much as I love that city. The amount of shopping, the amount of food, the amount of laughter with old friends.... wow, a little overwhelming!!!

It is SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO nice to be home. Gawd, it's so unbelievable how much I have come to love it here. Memphis or not, this is where our house is, where our good friends are and it's always nice to come home. Our bed... I don't care how awesome those beds in the hotels always claim theirs are, ours is the bomb!!! :)

We flew back on the red eye and arrived early saturday morning. Slept the afternoon away and was invited by our good friends out to sushi last night. YUM! It's always so nice to get together with another fun couple. I only wish there were more of them around. I guess I shouldn't complain. Some of my friends don't even have one cool couple to hang out with and we have THREE (even tho' one couple is moving away to the east coast SOB SOB SOB). Oh well, another friend to visit on one of my travels I suppose :) Plus I like their kids so it'll be nice to see them as well.

So six bags with matching wallets, one cool hand-carry for my future travels, some new clothing, stuff from crate and barrel and five pairs of shoes later, I'm ALL shopped out. I don't want to see another store or salesperson for a long long time. I'm not going to be in saks.com or neimanmarcus.com for awhile... I'm contented and I love everything I purchased but holy crap, there REALLY is an extreme end of buy buy buy! No more... nore more shopping for me... till... Japan... in 10 days!!! Hahahahaha!

Return to Shopper's Paradise

We took Nancy to her first dim sum meal at Yank Sing and she absolutely loved it! We thought it might be a good way to start her experiance; then again, we had to warn her never to expect the same kind of standard anywhere else in the US. Melissa and Ben joined it and it was very nice to see them again. Imagine the meal was that heavy we couldn't eat anything for dinner. Of course, dinner was merely two hours later ;)

Yesterday, Nora took the day off work and hung out with me all day. It was nice to be able to just gossip and laugh and SHOP - ok, that IS my life everyday anyway hahaha. Still, just to be around an old friend and talk about old times and hilarious memories. The shock of the morning was to see Nora drive. Yes, Nora who sat on my passenger seat constantly when I drove her around back home is now a two year graduate of driving in the streets of California. Hard to imagine. Of course, I was nervous many times but it was still pretty cool.

Dinner at Scotts in Oakland at Jack London Square was nice. I had the crab encrusted swordfish and it was absolutely wonderful! Even the white chocolate cheesecake was to die for. Bruce loved his sole and nancy enjoyed her salmon. I think mine was the best hee hee.

Today I'm going to San Francisco. I'd meet Mel after she gets off work which means I have quite a few hours to shop - surprise surprise. I'm TRYING to go slow but there really is very little diversion in the city. Oh well... and if we're lucky tonight, we'd get to have dinner at 'Slanted Door' again. It's been two years since we had our first meal at their old location (and it was awesome!) and since we've been reading so many writes ups since then, we simply have to go back there - granted we get an early reservation.

Got to start my day now!

Stupid Stupid Stupid

just as if we saw/heard a whiteboy speaking arabic, swahilee (sp) or a chinese speaking hebrew, we'd be surprised and curious to comment. it's not being chinese or being ang moh. if the people in taiwan and hong kng don't react to them westerners speaking a chinese language, it's 'coz they don't give a phuck! it has nothing to do with being chinese, american, brit or dutch! these ang moh's need to learn the psyche of us singaporeans. english is our first language. we speak it in school, we use it to converse with one another and we're very comfortable in and around it. we don't look down upon the chinese language (that's just a silly thing to even say!) but a lot of us use it only in chinese classes or with our older relatives. for crying out loud, if we speak to you in english, you complain. if we don't speak english, you complain. what do you want us to do?!?!

S'pore Chinese too ang moh, says ang moh - JUNE 30, 2004

The Heat... The BBQ... The Familiarity...

Despite the fact that it's been raining all week while we were away, it wasn't pleasant to come back to this heat and humidity. I'm already missing the fantastic weather in SF. But, I won't deny that it's SO nice to be home. No matter how comfortable the hotels boasts of their beds, they're not ours.

It was nice to see Melissa and Ben in SF. We had an ok meal at Sakana; it was impossible to make a last minute reservation anywhere with the influx of people for the gay pride parade... Margaret Cho was performing at the comedy club too and that's been fully booked for weeks ahead! Can't wait to catch up with Mel again on the gossips in a couple of weeks :)

We had a quiet Sunday. The husband stayed in bed on the computer most of the day and then accompanied me to the stores. Yes, it's nice to be driving on familiar roads, going to famialir places and eating yummy Memphis BBQ again. Hard to imagine this city girl can actually get used to and like it here... I'm sure my friends reading this back home would find it hard to fathom.

Well, it's yet another Monday - not that it makes a lot of difference to me what day of the week it is. Got to get back to my routine and back on the darn exercise machines somehow hahaha!

Don't Believe the Hype

Why do non muslims convert to islam? women especially!! i just don't understand it. not even after reading the articles below! it just seems far fetched and silly. as far as i'm concerned, only serious brain damage can lead a woman of dull sense onto that path. of course, i already know there are a lot of stupid people out there who are not legally insane who do it...

when my very beautiful, wild and known for her party-girl status friend met this 'hot' american guy on the internet, within months, she flew to the u.s without letting her family know, met the guy physically and got married within weeks by some muslim official. he has since led her from her non-islam upbringing into one that is filled with religious classes and of course, her muslim sisters. she dons the head piece in the midst of a big not exactly cosmopolitan u.s city where everyone stares and she can't understand why and gets upset. she wears nothing that reveals her shoulders and anything that doesn't cover her calves. all she is allowed to show is her perfect features on her beautiful face and perfect complexion. she cannot do things she used to enjoy, like going dancing at a club even tho' her husband continues such acts. his excuse is because she is now a muslim woman and needs to know her place. all this for a man who vows to make her happy?!? how happy can anyone in their right mind be coming from a westernized country, middle class upbringing and once upon a time, of sound mind?!

when i went to visit and stayed in their living room, i realized her husband had gone through my luggage. yes, without my permission! at that time, she was banned by her husband from eating junk food. he took MY junk food out of my luggage and left it on the kitchen counter and said nothing. what a creep! when i told her this, she as-a-matter-of-factly told me that that's how her husband is. i was, obviously, horrified and disgusted.

when the club in bali was bombed and killed many, she called to tell me it was an act by the americans... so her husband tells her as he'd read it in a foriegn newspaper (but couldn't tell me which) and whatever her husband says is, of course, unquestionable. there is a reason why we are no more in contact...

why do good people end up with idiots might be a good question. or how do the muslim men find all the idiot non-muslims to brainwash then might be another good one. or why don't enough muslim women question their believes; or their parents'/husbands' believes...

questioning is a good thing and if a fool like me can do it, those people out there need to start as well.


Why Western Women Choose Islam - The Islamic Garden

FOOD GLORIOUS FOOD

we went back to 'ozumo' on the first night. dad loved it and said it was the best sashimi he'd ever eaten. of course, the best toro he was pointing to wasn't even the best. maybe chu toro at best. i can't wait to go back to japan and have some serious o toro - yummerlicious! :) we always have a good time at 'ozumo'. they have a seriously good list of sake, service is good and food is excellent!

yesterday for lunch, we went to the 'swan oyster bar'. my my my... it's AWESOME. it's not one of those fou-fou places where they name their counter seats (raw bar) where you eat your oysters/seafood. this is downright basic bar counter that might seat 20 comfortably, cash only, and worth every cent of your money. the clam chowder is oh-so-good and the oysters yummy and creamy. i'd have to admit however, i'm used to the size of those down in new orleans but the ones out here sure don't lack the taste! the crab salad is seriously crab heaven. very very friendly servers/owners behind the counter. screw those take-out counters at fisherman's wharf. this is the real deal!!!

last night was early dinner at 'boulevard'. yet another very good eatery. new american food! the crab ravioli is unbelievable. it's not one of those places that you're there for quantity (you're not at the cheesecake factory) but the quality of ingrediants, the mix of taste is superb! the service is gonna' make you want to tip more than usual and unless you only have a party of two and are very early, don't even try to go there without a reservation. there is a reason why on a tuesday and wednesday, the best we could do was a 6:15pm slot.

today dad leaves... i'd start my shopping spree :) he's done his fair share of shopping; it's my turn. got my aim on some stuff at gucci, saks and neiman. i'd have to take my pick at two out of the three bags. of course nordstrom started their sale yesterday. decisions decisions!! ferragamo starts their sale tomorrow so that'll have to wait. speaking of which, two very african sounding black men walked into the ferragamo store yesterday when i was there asking in their very thick accent what their price range was. the hot italian sounding salesman took four almost embarassing repeats before he could understand the question. i was fun to look busy checking out this AWESOME fushia (the IN color for fall, by the way) tote and matching wallet and trying to not laugh aloud. i'm glad 'most' normal people understand me :)

i think we're having dim sum at yank sing today and who knows where dinner will take us...

Gay Pride Week in SF

i never knew there were so many indians in memphis... yes yes, the indians with the dot on their forehead. i rarely talk about the american ones. there were ma ma's every bloody where i turned at the airport coming to sf. funniest thing is, this american dude was on the phone with his son (i hope) and kept asking him to say 'ma ma'. for those not from singapore, ma ma is a word we call indians. it's not exactly derogatory but it's not exactly flattering either. 'can you call mama, can you call mama?!' saying this facing the group of 47 indian men, women and too many children eating what seemed like unpopped popcorn YUK! i couldn't help but snicker trying hard to contain my LOUD laugh...

so it's mid 60s, sunny, somewhat windy in the city... so what are we doing in the hotel room? i don't know... just one of those blah feeling days i suppose. i saw my dad... he shook my hands... yes he shook my phucking hands. WTF?!?!? no hugs no nothing. we were walking on our way from the bart to the hotel with our luggages and he asked if we'd just bought some new bags. HUH!?!?! i don't know if he's confused or was simply trying to confuse us... oh well, long story... bruce and i checked into the pan pacific (on the cross dresser package - we're not even asking so don't ask us) and it's a nice hotel... nice enough... at least the bedspreads have no freakin' flowers on them :) i hate flower print duvets!!! had a nice quick lunch at bruce's favourite sf restaurant, henry's hunan on broadway and sansome, got dad transferred out of the westin over to where we are and we so we're 'resting'. i should be out shopping but i suppose there is always time tomorrow to spend money.

bruce is watching tv. seinfeld. i'm slowly losing him to z-land :) the poor guy... came here against his own will hahahaha. he loves me :D

not much exciting going on as you can tell... i'd go take a nap. maybe i'd gain enough energy for another firm handshake in case dad might like to shake my phucking hands again; must be overly thrilled to see me.

CHEATERS

In the last eighteen months, three of my girlfriends from back home who are each sitting on a different corner of the world have called to ask me 'can you keep a secret'. yes i can if i want to geez... but why are they all calling ME to tell me they're cheating on their husbands??? it's discouraging, disgusting and honestly, i'd rather not know. it's not hot gossip to me and i'm wondering where did i go wrong in picking my friends when i was a kid. i mean, i've known these girls for at least a decade!

oddly enough, these adulterers are all products of cheating fathers. what would the phsychiatrists say??? they know it's a horrible thing to do i'm sure. they've got to; they have seen their mothers hurt and go through excruciating heartaches. yet, they're invigorated by this new man who brings excitement to their lives. i have tried to dissuade all of them. i told my caller last night that it was stupid and she wasn't being fair to her husband... but did she listen? she's decided they're going to take a short weekend rendezvous together. honestly, i think she told me last night in the midst of my deep sleep because the young, free and single me would have found this piece of news exciting. i might have even stupidly enough, given her that final jolt to think being happy in a marriage was the husband's job; not understanding what a real comittment, what true love, what hurting the person you love, the person who loves you back with all his heart might be go through when (not if) they found out. but i'm no more that girl... i'm a happily married woman who knows she's married the right man and the man of her dreams.

so why am i so upset by this particular call/caller? i mean, people cheat... i've known that for a very long time. but i haven't been able to go back to deep sleep since this call some six hours ago. i'm puzzled by my reaction... and i'm annoyed at myself for letting it affect me.

i warned her of the consequences... she's already talking about winning custody of her kids if the worst happens. she's gone off the deep end. i hope she doesn't update me in this relationship of hers. maybe she won't since i wasn't exactly being very encouraging over the phone. still, i seem to be the only person she claims she's told; someone whom she claims she can trust. well i told her i'd tell bruce - after all, he was sitting next to me in bed listening to all my response to her and knew exactly what was going on. after i got off the phone, all he said was 'are you the only non-cheating singaporean girl?'. i defensively started counting the girls who haven't. THREE. three of my close enough girlfriends out of more than 10 (the others cheated awhile back thus got my other response).

i wish people who cheat understand that having a relationship with someone else isn't going to resolve the problem with the person you're married to. i mean, you really don't have to be einstein to realize that right? i mean, it's a no brainer. they need to watch dr phil!

It's The King's Birthday!!!

I have to call my mother-in-law (mil) today to thank her for raising a man to be who is he today... my father always told us on our birthdays that mothers are the ones who should be celebrated; not us :) Of course, he never did celebrate his own mother so we continued the 'old tradition' of having the happy-birthday-to-me attitude.

Now that I'm married to this awesomely good man, I can see dad's point of view... I see the husband at times in my mil no matter how much he refuses to admit it. It's almost endearing sometimes how he claims he cannot be any more different. The truth is, this boy is his mother's son through and through. I love him for that. She's a very nice lady and I know she loves me because I make her son happy. How many daughters-in-law can honestly admit that or even know that. She's super nice to me, buys me little presents constantly (albeit not really my style, it's really the thought that counts) and says things that sometimes drives her son insane and makes me laugh. She's sweet, stubbornly independent and smart. She's in her 70s and still has a full time job. That's a lot more than what I can say for myself :s

Today is my husband's birthday! This must be the 7th birthday of his that we're spending together... where have the years gone? I know... the first two and a half years we were dating, the next one and a half I was chasing after him (hahahaha, yes, truly and hard!) and then eventually, he gave in and married me :D Life is good: for me and him, I know.

I haven't gotten him a birthday present. He seems to have it all. He has me, doesn't he :D I offered to get him a couple of things but he seemed bored with the ideas. A new cellphone (the one he has look like it's been through a whole lot; talk about a used and half damaged phone), a new set of golf clubs (since the fools in his Dallas apt stole it from his parking space when he had to pick me up from the airport when I was visiting from Arizona four years ago)... so here I am... no present for my favourite man on his day. :( Yeah I feel bad but I've tried. I did get a card though :)

I wished him a happy birthday at 1am when I woke up and heard him typing feverishly on this laptop. He's deeeeeeep in sleep now. It's only 4:58am. I'd go make some fresh fried rice for him. That should start his day well enough :)